Friday, April 25, 2008

how to control your anger/emotions - by vaishnavi

Anger is "an emotional state that varies in intensity from mild irritation to intense fury and Anger can be caused by both external and internal events. You could be angry at a specific person or event , or your anger could be caused by worrying or brooding about your personal problems. Memories of traumatic or enraging events can also trigger angry feelings.
The instinctive, natural way to express anger is to respond aggressively. Anger is a natural, adaptive response to threats; it inspires powerful, often aggressive, feelings and behaviors, which allow us to fight and to defend ourselves when we are attacked. A certain amount of anger, therefore, is necessary to our survival.
On the other hand, we can't physically lash out at every person or object that irritates or annoys us; laws, social norms, and common sense place limits on how far our anger can take us.
The three main approaches are expressing, suppressing, and calming.
Anger can be suppressed, and then converted or redirected.
This happens when you hold in your anger, stop thinking about it, and focus on something positive.
The aim is to inhibit or suppress your anger and convert it into more constructive behavior.
The danger in this type of response is that if it isn't allowed outward expression, your anger can turn inward—on yourself.
Anger turned inward may cause hypertension, high blood pressure, or depression.
Unexpressed anger can create other problems.
It can lead to pathological expressions of anger, such as passive-aggressive behavior (getting back at people indirectly, without telling them why, rather than confronting them head-on) or a personality that seems perpetually cynical and hostile.
People who are constantly putting others down, criticizing everything, and making cynical comments haven't learned how to constructively express their anger.
Not surprisingly, they aren't likely to have many successful relationships.
u may be thinking hoe exactly od i control my anger if everything seems wrong???
well wait and continue reading
trying doing stuff like
Finally, you can calm down inside. This means not just controlling your outward behavior, but also controlling your internal responses, taking steps to lower your heart rate, calm yourself down, and let the feelings subside.
The goal of anger management is to reduce both your emotional feelings and the physiological arousal that anger causes.
You can't get rid of, or avoid, the things or the people that enrage you, nor can you change them, but you can learn to control your reactions
MY TECHIQUES ( my part )
Breathe deeply, from your diaphragm; breathing from your chest won't relax you. Picture your breath coming up from your "gut."
Slowly repeat a calm word or phrase such as "relax," "take it easy." Repeat it to yourself while breathing deeply.
Use imagery; visualize a relaxing experience, from either your memory or your imagination.
Nonstrenuous, slow yoga-like exercises can relax your muscles and make you feel much calmer.
try praticing this daily whenver in a tensy situation...
it reallt helps....

and one more things sum people actually think that i'm impatient or get angry very fast


i'm the total opposite

and i dun get angry that easily......